And just when I was so depressed and thought all was lost (see yesterday's post
), the good people of Massachusetts give me one more reason to love them. Amazingly, the story doesn't seem to be big news.... Though it really should be (more on that later).
The state legislature is not sending a constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage to the ballot box in 2006. (Click here
for the story from the Washington Post
.) And why should they? Marriage is between two people, period. Regardless of whether you are straight or gay, what you choose to do inside your personal relationship should be nobody's business unless it causes pain or suffering. (This eerily relates to the discussions taking place at John Roberts' confirmation hearings
, in which it seems they have floated the ideas of restricting birth control for the unmarried, and reversing the anti-sodomy decision of two years ago.) In fact, the government really has no vested interest in promoting marriage (in the ways they do with welfare, taxes, abstinence programs, and other insidious ways).
Take welfare for example. Most people don't know there is a "marriage bonus" of some several millions of dollars given to the state that increases its marriage rates the most amongst those on welfare. Okay, maybe having two married parents is in general a good thing. But in my case, my father and mother hated each other and staying together would have created a ridiculously unhealthy environment for me and my siblings. Instead, my mom raised four children all by herself and managed to make do--without being married. And it was better that way. We weren't on welfare, but I think the point stands.
I think Republican and Christian conservations should stop worrying about everyone else's marriage, and start concentrating on their own. Perhaps then our country's divorce rate would go down, because you know it ain't only the Dems to blame for that.
But back to gay marriage. This is why this story needs to be big news, it needs to be broadcast across the country: has life changed for anyone since it started in Massachusetts? Has the Apocalypse started? Have all marriages between straight people started disintegrating, or has marriage somehow been debased because of it? Of course not, nothing has changed except for the lucky gay people of Massachusetts. And that is exactly the way it should be.